I am well aware of how daunting the task of baby caring is. I have had days when I was so exhausted that I hated to get out of the bed to tend to my baby. She would make things worse for me and my husband whenever we would try to get a quick shuteye, by crying at the top of her voice. She would cry even though we would see her off all cozy and snuggled up in her crib. Things were becoming a lot more frustrating and in fact, going out of hand. So, I decided to turn the pages of the controversial section for a change. That’s when I found the Ferber rule for the first time and decided to give it a shot.
If you too are being subjected to constant crying and uncalled for sleep cribbing by the baby, I suggest you pay heed to Ferber.
Behind The Ferber Method: Popular or Controversial?
So who is this Ferber, and how does he come into the baby sleep training picture?
Richard Ferber is a pediatrician who is the founder and former director of Center for Pediatric Sleep Disorders in Boston. It was in the year 1985, he came up with his book “Solve Your Child’s Sleep Problems” that put him in the limelight owing to the controversy lurking around his theory. His theory elucidates that a baby should be taught to soothe into sleeping without getting entailed in the crying routine. The method is also widely popular as Ferberizing.
Even though the method went on to spark controversies on the fronts of leaving emotional scars in the process, being absent emotionally, branding one as a bad parent, insinuating how uncaring the parent is, and manifesting how unperturbed the parent is to the crooning, it has also been able to work wonders for many other cases which are quite distant from misunderstood waters.
All those controversies are actually owing to the blunt approach that Ferberization asks of you. However, if you really look at it, it isn’t that inhuman.
What Ferber has explicitly mentioned in his book is the fact that you have to delay your response time and not leave the child completely unattended, which as a matter of fact has been the main reason for a complete misunderstanding.
This is to make the behavior of the child less disruptive, as ultimately the baby will accept the aid is hard to avail and become much calmer with time.
Give the Ferber Method a Try!
With colossal controversies surrounding the method, you don’t want to rush into it. Even I didn’t with my baby. I did proper research and checked if she was ready on the emotional and physical front before giving Ferberization a shot. I have jotted down the acts in the form of steps for your perusal. Follow them to master the style.
Step 1: Take your baby to the crib when you read a few yawns on him/her.
Step 2: If the baby starts crying the moment you bid your adieus, let him/her cry for a fixed interval of time.
Step 3: Then go to your baby and pat him/her on the back as a reassurance that you are there. Make sure you put on a quiet and soothing voice whilst loving. Also, do not pick up the baby otherwise you would be inadvertently making the child accustomed to a hard-to-get-rid-of want. The baby would always need you around wanting you to place him or her in the same comfortable zone. In the end, just leave swiftly even though the infant hasn’t come out of the crying mode.
Step 4: Stay out of the room for a little bit longer and follow the same routine again by revisiting the baby and patting him/her with reassurance. This time however make sure you stay out of the room for a longer interval.
Step 5: Repeat the same steps over and over again however keep increasing the staying-out-of-the-room hour. Always spend no more than a minute patting and tending the baby without picking him/her up. Leave when the baby is still awake.
Step 6: Keep repeating the steps until the baby falls asleep.
Reiterate the same steps again and again after the child wakes up. This when done on a regular basis for two to three day, you will see that the baby sleeps on his/her own by the third or fourth night.
If your child is really resistant to this method, just wait a few more weeks and then give it a shot again.
Clearing all doubts eventually, there is nothing wrong with it. It is a win-win situation for both parents and the child. My baby just turned out fine. So as a thoughtful caring person I would say, “Get some sleep!”